Fat Fancy

April 16, 2014

Exposed (adjective) not protected or covered
1. open to view

Before starting this blog I knew that posting pictures of myself would leave me exposed to the entire world wide web.  Some that follow my blog are people who share my passion for self expression through personal style and fashion and to all of you lovely people I say “Hey, boo!’  But there is the minority group of creepers and haters.  The creepers think I started this blog to satisfy their weird and umm creepy BBW fetishes while the haters, who may strongly declare that they don’t follow or read my blog or whatever — they are continually ever present with each new post with a fat snarky comment.  But I guess they serve their purpose and do what they do best… and hate.  But just an FYI to anyone who cares that is reading this… I didn’t start this blog to cater to either behavior– the creeping and the hating.  So to the creepers — I’m not a big bottomed, promiscuous over sexed object that is seeking the attention of chubby chasers.  Oh and the haters– I’m also very well aware of what my body looks like.  So when comments spew out after I post a picture on the blog or on any of my social media platforms of an outfit baring my arms and legs (but let’s face it I can be completely covered up) … someone out there types on their keyboard F-A-T while carrying on that I shouldn’t wear such a thing and blah blah blah.  That noise is just an unnecessary silent echo of the obvious and the obvious is that I am fat.  There’s no hiding that.  I see this fat body every day!  I shower it, moisturize and clothe it — and through that daily process I am fully aware that I am indeed fat. So thanks for repeating what I’ve already said … I’m fat and I will continue to be fat and wear whatever tickles my fat fancy.

Musings of a Curvy Lady is about the sharing, motivating, fashion slaying, advocating, celebrating and loving the body you have — however shaped it is — right now!  And not waiting for someone else to say it’s okay for a fat girl to bare her legs.  And that’s another thing … the word fat.  Some people do not like to use the word because of the negative connotation that non-fat people and society have given it.  I once over heard girls in a dressing room say that they rather be anorexic or bulimic than fat.  Really?! So it’s no wonder that so many avoid the use of the word fat completely.  Fat people are supposed to be ashamed and made to feel awkward if they God forbid have any self esteem.  But do I look ashamed?  No.  And I definitely don’t look disgusting –shoot I’m fly!  So I honestly don’t mind using the word.  I am fat.  Fat. Fat. Fat.  I’m also– this may be surprising to somehealthy.  I am curvy.  I am a lady.  That is my truth.  It just so happens that I am confident in this fat body.   Shocking?!  Get over it.  No one owns the idea of confidence.  Confidence is not designated only to celebrities, fitness instructors that look like Jillian Michaels, green juice drinking fanatics or “the pretty people.”  It is free to everyone.  It’s up to you as an individual to tap into it and get what’s yours. It’s for the chubby girl baring belly jelly in a crop top without fear.  It’s for the thin kid that strikes poses in his bedroom mirror.  It’s for the fat kid who decides not to wear the white t shirt to go swimming.  It belongs to any one who decides that they are deserving of it.  So bare what you have: thin and fat arms and fatter legs if that makes you happy!  Don’t sweat it because everyone and their momma’s momma is going to have an opinion and they’re entitled … even the creepers and the haters.

Photos by Kirstin Marie
Top ::: Forever 21+
Shoes (in black) /Necklace (similar)/Dress (worn as a skirt, similar) ::: Deb (c/o)
Clutch ::: Charming Charlie (old)
Lip Color ::: Urban Decay in Anarchy
I shot this look with flats to continue the conversation that flats can be just as stylish as a pair of heels.  Wear what works for you!
Purse ::: ASOS (similar)
Flats ::: Forever 21 (similar

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  • Reply Irina April 6, 2016 at 4:04 am

    You are very beautiful and incredibly inspirational! Thank you! Keep rockin’ it! 🙂

  • Reply Cynthia Dixon January 1, 2016 at 4:40 am

    Hi Tahmarr!

    I think you’re a beautiful lady. I love your style and fashion sense. You wear clothing that’s flattering, posh, simple, sophisticated, elegant, and suits your body lovely. I’ve followed you on FB and IG so I can keep up with your posts and perhaps pick up a few pointers, cause I seriously need to regain some style.

    I also enjoy your photo shoots. I too live in Jacksonville and it’s nice to see the many different locations you shoot from. Ignore the negative voices and continue doing what makes you shine!!

  • Reply Mr. Al November 30, 2015 at 7:20 pm

    I love U you look great in everything!!!

  • Reply Alessandra December 15, 2014 at 7:38 pm

    I’m not too sure how I found this post.. but I am so happy I did! You are beautiful and so inspiring.


  • Reply Nefferth Bernadina May 18, 2014 at 9:55 pm

    A fellow blogger send me this link and I’m glad she did. I had my first real fat body shame comment experience today and even somehow I was prepared, I was not. It took me a few minutes to process and I realized there’s no need to analyse the why of this action. Thank you for being open about this and sharing your experience with us. I feel better …

  • Reply Anonymous April 29, 2014 at 8:15 pm

    I have been so inspired from reading this….thank you

  • Reply Anonymous April 27, 2014 at 12:39 am

    You’re gorgeous. That’s all there is to it. Your blue and white outfit is so fresh and Spring looking. Keep up the great work. Oh, and thanks for being you.

  • Reply Anonymous April 25, 2014 at 11:25 pm

    So glad you aren’t listening to the haters. I read every single post and you really do inspire other “fat” women to appreciate their bodies and dress those bodies in whatever makes us feel fabulous. Stay beautiful.

  • Reply Angela Jones April 23, 2014 at 4:47 pm

    You may be fat, but you’re also beautiful! Thanks for your blog posts. As a fellow fatty who loves fashion, I really appreciate it! Keep up the good work.

  • Reply NeverEnoughPolish April 21, 2014 at 5:50 pm

    Ignore the weirdos and haters. You’ve have more style in your little pinky than they probably can ever hope to have 🙂

  • Reply Bleu Styler April 18, 2014 at 8:18 pm

    Amen! Continue to do what works for you! Keep posting and keep believing!

  • Reply Rita April 17, 2014 at 8:49 am

    You go girl! Well put.Those negative folks are just time-wasters! Gotta be sad for them xo

  • Reply Sthembile Ngidi April 17, 2014 at 6:41 am

    I love your attitude and you look amazing….thanks for inspiring me, i follow your blog all the way from South Africa, keep doing you coz you are fantastic and fabulous

  • Reply FlyingPurpleHippos.com April 16, 2014 at 11:05 pm

    Love your way with words in this post.

  • Reply SabrinaGospel April 16, 2014 at 10:32 pm

    Sweetness you are absolutely Gorgeous & Fabulous! X
    keep styling..your an inspiration…x

  • Reply chelsea2788 April 16, 2014 at 7:37 pm

    What a great message! Keeping on shining and working it girl because you’re fabulous! 🙂

  • Reply Laura (dusty_rose) April 16, 2014 at 7:18 pm

    I love love love this outfit, and your body-positive attitude too!

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